What Else Is There?

Deuces wild?

Things seem to be happening in twos. On that note, I'll name two instances - one good, one not-so-good. Each with two people; two things said and two things misunderstood.

The Good
I've recently noticed a growing trend in disproportionate friendships. When I say this, I'm talking about when two friends don't view each other as equals in the friendship field. Let's say Friend #1 considers Friend #2 their best friend, but Friend #2's best friend is not Friend #1. Get it? This usually goes unnoticed because this topic hardly ever just "comes up." But lately, I'm seeing and hearing things that bring it to my attention. Which leads me to think ...

I don't have a "best friend," per se. I tend to keep a few great friends at varying friend levels, but haven't singled out a solitary best. I rely on each one for different things. As a kid I had a few best friends, but was often disappointed when they moved, or I moved, or shit happened. But maybe by my subconscious decision not to have a best friend, it keeps me from being disappointed should that person not reciprocate. Deep, I know.

Now I'm not a godly person, but I do consider myself blessed lately. I've been fortunate enough to be reminded of my friendship status by two important people in my life. I don't know if either of them realize how much it meant to me, but I think I made it clear to them that I feel the same way. My life is that much richer and more fulfilled because of them. Too many times have I let friends fall by the wayside and not told them how much they meant to me. So maybe I'm making up for lost time.

The Not-So-Good
Here's the strange part. The aforementioned "Good" happened during the same week's span as this crap. Granted, I've been having some rough times at work. Just terribly busy and stressed, but not outright angry or upset. Yet two different people have asked me if I was upset at them. Both for similar reasons: misunderstandings.

One was the result of an email taken out of context. Rather than coming across as sarcastic, this person thought I was upset. I had to explain, but it lead to some hurt feelings, even if temporary. The other person said hello in passing, and I didn't reply. Now, I don't ignore people who are being friendly. In general, I don't ignore people period. But am I so absorbed in my own goings-on that I don't even notice when someone is trying to brighten my day? Perhaps, and that's sad.

I'll have to work on that.

I guess the point I'm trying to make is with both instances, The Good and The Not-So-Good, I realized that my reaction (or lack thereof) made a difference in that person's day. And in turn, that made a difference to me - I felt important, and everyone (no matter how slight) likes to be made to feel important. I felt just that.

So be important to someone. I know at this point I probably sound like a public service announcement, but if you're looking for sarcasm and humor, you may want to go somewhere else. If you aren't, well, you're probably one of those people I consider important. Thanks. :)